5 Ways to Break Out of Playing Small at Work and Reach Your Full Potential
- Steve Gooch
- Mar 24
- 4 min read
You show up consistently. You do the work. You carry a lot, more than most people realise. And yet, when it’s time for recognition, when someone needs to lead or be seen, it’s often not you they turn to.
If that’s familiar, it’s not in your head. You’re not imagining it. You’re still playing small at work. Not in loud or obvious ways, but in the quieter moments that pass unnoticed, even by you.
You may be doing everything right on the surface, but beneath that, something in your energy is still playing small.
You’re not hiding. You’re not fading away. But you might still be holding back in subtle, habitual ways; softening your voice, hesitating at the crucial moment, or waiting to be invited in.
These are not flaws. They’re learned patterns. And you can unlearn them.
1. Spot the Subtle Signs You’re Shrinking
Playing small doesn’t always look like fear.
Sometimes it looks like overexplaining.
Or starting a great idea with, “This might sound silly, but…”
It shows up when you take on more than everyone else, just to prove yourself.
When you smile to make your opinion feel safer.
When you let someone else take the lead, even when you know you’re ready.
Blending in becomes a habit. And when you try too hard to be agreeable, helpful, or non-threatening, you unintentionally teach people to overlook you.
So ask yourself:
Where are you still trying to be good instead of powerful?
If you’ve been quietly playing small at work, even while doing everything right, this is your invitation to shift that pattern for good.
2. Reclaim the Space You Were Conditioned to Abandon
Years ago, during a Reiki class I taught in Egypt, we practised metta bhavana: a Buddhist meditation on cultivating loving-kindness. The practice involves bringing awareness to the heart centre and intentionally generating feelings of goodwill, first toward yourself, then toward others, and eventually toward all beings.
One of the women in the class came to me afterwards, looking a little sheepish.
She told me she couldn’t do it. Not because it was difficult, but because it made her feel selfish.
She had been raised to believe that putting herself first was wrong. That loving herself was indulgent.
Even wishing herself well made her feel like she was betraying something sacred. She'd been raised by her parents and the church that she should never think of herself, but to put others first. She felt like she doing something profoundly wrong.
That’s what playing small really looks like.
It’s not always fear. Sometimes it’s morality. Sometimes it’s humility. Sometimes it's negative conditioning as it was in the case of this Reiki student.
3. Understand That Energy Speaks Louder Than Words
We think people respond to our words and actions, and to some extent they do.
But more than that, people respond to our presence, what we carry into the room before we speak.
This is why the most capable person in the room is not always the one who is heard.
It’s not just what you say. It’s the confidence and clarity with which you hold yourself when you say it.
Presence doesn’t come from performance.
It comes from alignment: when your body, mind, and energy are no longer at war with each other.
You don’t need to perform confidence. You need to shift into it.
4. Break the Pattern in Your Body with Reiki
If you’re stuck, it’s probably not because you haven’t read enough books or done enough mindset work.
It’s because your nervous system still doesn’t feel safe taking up space.
Reiki offers a different kind of shift.
It works not through logic, but through energy; helping you release what your body is still holding on to.
The part of you that braces when it’s time to speak, or shrinks when you’re asked to lead.
Reiki helps you:
Let go of the need for approval
Anchor yourself in clarity
Speak from your centre
Take up space without apology
Become powerful in your own skin!
It changes how you feel in your body. And that changes how others respond to you.
5. Step into The Power Within
There is a version of you that already knows how to lead.
She doesn’t second-guess herself. She doesn’t need permission.
She speaks clearly, owns her space, and moves from her centre.
That version isn’t far away. She’s just waiting for you to stop holding her back and let her step forward.
The Power Within is the space where this shift happens.
This isn’t about learning more.
It’s about returning to what’s already there: underneath the layers of conditioning that taught you to stay small.
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Stop Waiting to Be Chosen
You’ve done enough waiting. Enough second-guessing. Enough soft-stepping. Isn't it time the change happened? That time is now.
You already know what you’re capable of.
And deep down, you’re not waiting to be ready. You’re waiting to stop shrinking.
When you do, something shifts.
You don’t just get seen. You get felt.
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All the best,
Steve
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